Albom, Mitch. Tuesdays with Morrie. Doubleday:UK. 1997.
A poignant true story of Professor Morrie and his student Mitch Albom, 'Tuesdays with Morrie', the book that was presented to me in 2006 by one of my students Deepa Muralidhar, never fails to move me everytime I read it.
Morrie suffering from ALS, a progressive degenerative muscular disorder, continues his lessons with Mitch, his special student during the time left for him. As Mitch says, " The class met on Tuesdays...The subject was The Meaning of Life...No books were required, yet many topics were covered including love, work, community, family, aging, forgiveness, and, finally, death. ...A funeral was held in lieu of graduation...The last class of my old professor's life had only one student...I was the class".
Morrie battles his disease in his own way...shedding a few tears in the morning and then getting on with it. He teaches Mitch that the best way to tackle death is the Buddhist way...look at the bird on your shoulder and ask, 'Is today the day? ...Am I doing all I need to do?...Am I being the person I want to be?...if you can accept that you can die at any time, then you might not be as ambitious as you are".
Morrie also encourages Mitch to give up his fears of growing old. When one frets about growing old, that reflects a dissatisfied life. Such a person will never be happy. One has to find what is beautiful and good and true about the present moment. Oh, how I loved these words. Morrie has put in words exactly what I feel.
Morrie informs Mitch that geeting involved in doing something beyond one's own world , by devoting oneself to loving others, devoting oneself to the community, one gains a sense of purpose and meaning. Mitch jots downs these ideas and as he does, the reader does too.
In between these interchanges between Morrie and himself, Mitch desscribes the onset of the disaese with such clarity that for the reader it is a sweet and agonising moment when one accepts the finality of the disease and the infinity of the person who affects others' lives. As Morrie himself says, 'Death ends a life, not a relationship'.
For those of us who have suffered losses of family and friends and seen them go before us, this book comes as a comfort. For we know, everytime we remember the loved one lost, we perpetuate that relationship. As Mitch does, through this book.
Though one feels the lump in the throat and tears roll down without a warning, the book is strangely comforting, for it is a lesson that helps us see the thoughts of a dying person, much like the thoughts that must've gone through our family and friends that we have lost to a disease, sickness or illness.
Thank you, Deepa, for the lovely book. It has clarified so many things for me and comforted me about my confrontation with some losses and my own attitude to life. I would like to think of you as one of my Tuesday's students, if I had one.